I was working with a client recently who was having trouble asking for a raise at work. She had worked for the company for years, the owners were friends, and she didn’t like making waves. After discussing several steps she could take such as scheduling a meeting with her boss, compiling a salary history and a few other things, we then addressed the idea of self worth. Deep inside she did feel worthy but she found it difficult to ask for what she wanted. Unless she took the first step to ask for what she wanted, nothing would change.I t was likely the owners were not even aware of her feelings or had even bothered to review her salary history.
She made an appointment for a meeting armed with a list of what she was worth.
I received an email the next day with a quote she found in the NYTimes stating,’if you don’t know your own value, someone will tell you your value, and it’ll be less than your worth.’
She had the meeting and came out with a salary increase and three bonuses!
Self esteem can only come from ourselves. the critical mind is not our mind. It is a learned behavior stemming from an ‘authority figure’ in our childhood telling us how we should think and behave. We are born whole and complete and each one of us is worthy.
Another great quote from Wayne Dyer states, ‘Don’t let anyone rent space in your head.’ I love this quote because when you realize that someone else’s opinion is jus that - their opinion - it’s very freeing. When you are honest and true
Knowing who you are is the greatest gift you can give yourself. It is in fact your birthright. Living authentically and carrying that out into the world is the greatest power there is. When you carry your self esteem with you, known your value, other will sit up and take notice. It’s as simple as that!
She made an appointment for a meeting armed with a list of what she was worth.
I received an email the next day with a quote she found in the NYTimes stating,’if you don’t know your own value, someone will tell you your value, and it’ll be less than your worth.’
She had the meeting and came out with a salary increase and three bonuses!
Self esteem can only come from ourselves. the critical mind is not our mind. It is a learned behavior stemming from an ‘authority figure’ in our childhood telling us how we should think and behave. We are born whole and complete and each one of us is worthy.
Another great quote from Wayne Dyer states, ‘Don’t let anyone rent space in your head.’ I love this quote because when you realize that someone else’s opinion is jus that - their opinion - it’s very freeing. When you are honest and true
Knowing who you are is the greatest gift you can give yourself. It is in fact your birthright. Living authentically and carrying that out into the world is the greatest power there is. When you carry your self esteem with you, known your value, other will sit up and take notice. It’s as simple as that!
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